Ok, so I know that Hot Mess Mom looks cute on a sweatshirt.. and after this blog goes live I’m completely prepared to have an inbox of DMs with other opinions – but I want you to hear me out today.
I get it, this morning when I dropped of my kid at school with my sweats, no bra, no make up, messy bun – I feel like a hot mess. But usually in that moment I feel lite on the hot, and heavy on the mess. But it’s not so much about me as a woman. I’m not a hot mess. I just look messy. For a minute.
Hot Mess is an excuse coined as cute term that let’s us off the hook for being chaotic.
Let me make this clear first…
Dry shampoo & messy buns don’t make you a hot mess.
Laundry to do & take out doesn’t make you a hot mess.
Kids still in pajamas at 2 in the afternoon doesn’t make you a hot mess.
Hot mess means frenzy. Hot mess means chaos. Hot mess means you don’t have a plan. And hot mess is a choice.
You don’t have to have it all perfectly together to get rid of the ‘hot mess’ verbiage.
It isn’t a choice between all put together & hot mess, you aren’t one or the other. We have all of these terms that have a cutesy sign or shirt that goes with it – but we haven’t realized how deeply it can affect us. The way we live our lives, run our businesses or households.
Here are 3 Ways to DITCH the Hot Mess Mentality and Take Control
1. Know Your CORE 4
Focus on what actually matters to you first. When you reject hot mess, you are committing to focus. Instead of always feeling behind, choose to fulfill priorities within your CORE 4 first. This will help you avoid burn out, and take care of the things that mean the most to you. It will also allow you to understand what time you have to spend on things outside of your CORE 4.
2. Have A Plan
Having a plan doesn’t mean everything will also go perfectly – but it does mean that you are choosing to be proactive rather than reactive.
When you are juggling a lot, you need to know in your plan – what balls are rubber and which are glass. Drop things accordingly
3. Check Your Mindset
Hot mess is a mindset, or an excuse that you just accept. It isn’t who you are. You are not a mess. You have all of the power, and you can create a life that feels good for you!
Focus on your power, and what you can do – believe in yourself. And don’t accept less than you deserve.
You don’t have to stop there – I’m talking more about this!
In October, I’m going to be talking a lot about this topic in The On Purpose Entrepreneur Club. Having regular mindset check ins, and going into detail about how to avoid falling into the ‘hot mess’ trap!
If you want to join in, the price is only $27 per month and the benefits are endless – check out more here.