Mom Guilt is a real thing y’all – and if you have been around me for more than a minute, you know I’m all about crushing the mom guilt myths. Fall is a time we see the perfect social posts of families all dressed up in their matching flannel tossing leaves up in the air – and if you are prone to mom guilt and overwhelm – you wonder just how the heck they have it all together like that…
I’m about to crush 3 of the biggest Mom Guilt Myths that the fall season brings on – and I’m going to teach you how to give yourself permission to ELSA (let it go) the ISH out of it.
1. The ‘I-didn’t-do-any-of-the-precious-and-extremely-complicated-pinterest-fall-activities” MOM GUILT.
STAHHPPP – I can promise you that your children will not be speaking in therapy when they are 20 that their mother didn’t help them create a wall size leaf collage when they were 8. They don’t care. They want to run and jump in leaves – they could care less about pinteresty crafts.
This MOM GUILT is about you, about what you are saying to yourself as a mom. One of the most common forms of mom guilt – I’m not ______ enough. And this it that – for some reason we tell ourselves if we are crafty super mom, then we’ve failed. I can assure you that my oldest kid (who is working on his doctorate degree) did not suffer because we didn’t do crafts. Y’all let this one go – keep your fall activities SIMPLE. And if those pinterest crafts make you feel less than. DO NOT LOOK AT THEM.
2. The ‘Karen’s kids costume is a homemade working transformer, and my kid is wearing a sheet for a ghost’ MOM GUILT.
Y’all – be real… is that costume about her kid – or about her. I mean sure her kid thinks its cool… but we all know kids are happy with a target or amazon special. Furthermore, I have no doubt you and I can both name moms who’ve chosen their kids costume for them – because it would be so cute.
Keep this holiday about your kid. If they want to be a simple black cat, and they hate their face painted – who cares. If they are happy, its all good. To limit your overwhelm, keep it simple. A one piece Paw Patrol Costume will suit your toddler just fine (this is my story). Halloween doesn’t need to be a competition – comparison will be the stealer of your joy.
3. The ‘About 9 weeks into back to school we are now arguing and yelling at each other’ MOM GUILT.
First off – you are not alone. Millions of households across the country just today have had very lively conversations with their children for various things… Just remember, you love your kid. If you didn’t love them, you wouldn’t be feeling guilty for less than perfect moments as a parent. Remember that your kid knows they are loved. Even on the most chaotic days – they know you love them. And 9 times outta 10, you remember when they don’t.
I’m not saying yelling and arguing is the way to go, and sure we should all try and reduce the amount of “intense fellowship” as a girlfriend of mine used to call it. But understand that this doesn’t make you a sucky mom. And make a commitment to try & change the pattern.
And for those of you that are chronic – yes sayers.. This one is just for you!
BONUS : The we don’t have time to do all of the things MOM GUILT.
I have no doubt that if you are back to school, your PTA has had at least one fundraiser you have been asked to participate in, you’ve had committees floated by your inbox, and your kid has brought home 2 sports and 3 club fliers that they want to join. You’ve probably said to yourself, “How do I make time for all of this”. But here’s the deal… You don’t “make” time. You have the same 24 hours every single day. The key is to be intentional with the time you have. You need a balance system based on your families structure and priorities. And once that is in place, you will need to implement the word NO into your vocabulary.
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Y’all – if you’ve felt mom guilt from one of these topics – know that I’m speaking from experience… And know it is possible to LET IT GO! For more on mom guilt, follow me on Instagram, and join me free FB Community CONQUER : Taking moms from overwhelmed to overcome.